“And That is What I Want?” NLP Technique
— Chris Daughtry American Idol
I don’t know a lot of Chris Daughtry’s songs, but I know I absolutely love this one. One of the lines in the song says, “I don’t regret this life I chose for me.” The point I’m trying to make in my video above is it’s a choice, and it’s your choice. Right?
You have a choice. Choosing the life you want or to choose the life you don’t want. I know some people have a hard time with the idea that they are choosing the life they don’t want. Whether you believe it or not, it’s true.
Do bad things happen to good people? You bet. It is part of life. Expect it, you can’t run from it. The longer we live, the more people that are going to get Cancer. The more people that are going to leave you in one way or another. That is not what I’m talking about here.
I’m talking about how we think, how we talk to ourselves, and how we talk to the world.
The Horse and The Rider
I saw a video from a fellow blogger Mike Hobbs. I’m a firm believer in focusing on what you want. We are goal seeking creatures. We are born with it. If you don’t believe me, watch a baby try to walk. Nothing is going to stop them. Right?
I also believe that when we focus on the opposite of what we want, we attract that. I didn’t need Mike Hobbs to tell me this. As far as I’m concerned it’s truth… But he did put this concept into perspective in a new and unique way that I never thought of before.
It was a light bulb moment for me. Try this NLP technique out for a week and see what new awareness and results you get. After conscious thought you become aware of, or verbalize to the world add this phrase to the end…
“And that is what I want”
In some cases you might see what you are saying and believing is absolutely absurd. Especially when you are speaking negative into your life. For example…
I couldn’t win a raffle if I was the only contestant. And that is what I want.
I’m fat… And that is what I want.
Why am I always behind the 8 ball? And that is what I want.
Do you see how absurd that sounds? Just give it a try. You will start to laugh. Or maybe cry because you realize you have been doing this for far too long. That is if you get out of your own way. In spite of EGO, you can change in an instant.
How do you turn it around? And that is what I want, allows for awareness. First step. Let’s use loosing weight as an example. Remember we need to focus on what we want. Do we want to lose weight. NO.
Losing weight is negative and it can bring up a feeling of sacrifice and loss. Loss of time, loss of pleasurable food experiences, a mental picture of a not so attractive sweaty self… maybe… What do you want. (in this case)
I’m 190 lbs mainly because I married an beautiful Italian woman last year and her mom spoils me with pasta daily. 190 lbs isn’t obese by any means, but when you have skinny legs and a pasta belly it’s time to do something… So instead of saying I want to lose 10 lbs… I say I want to be 180lbs… Or EVEN BETTER…
I am 180 lbs.
Speaking your future goals and wants in the present tense is your bonus NLP technique for the day.
OH, I Almost Forgot
The horse and the rider. Our conscious mind is the rider. Our unconscious is the horse. As the rider we would never allow the horse to lead us wherever it wanted to go, but do we tell the horse how to step on each stride?
No, that doesn’t make sense. The horse will go wherever we guide it, or coax it. Unless it’s thirsty. Then it will start looking for water. A stream, a lake, whatever. No matter how much you kick the horse, it will only move in the direction of quenching it’s thirst. Even though normally the horses job is to go where you tell it to and go fast…Right?
Why does the unconscious mind take us to places where we don’t want to go. Two reasons. A lack of awareness of what we are actually telling our subconscious… or we are deliberately telling it what we DON”T want. The subconscious does not discriminate. It’s job is to do what you tell it to do…
So WAKE UP. And that is what I want.
Mike Hobbs may not know this is a NLP technique, or maybe he does, but regardless it’s common sense that probably isn’t all that common. I really appreciate Mike’s article that opened up an awareness for me. I’m confident this will work for you.
Those that dare try this…Comment on your insights and results below…